STRAIGHT TALK FROM YOUR GBF
TO SPICE UP THEIR SEX LIVES
I’M SEEING THIS GREAT GUY WHO MAKES ME FEEL LOVED AND SECURE, BUT HE LACKS THE SPONTANEOUS HUMOUR I’VE ENJOYED IN MY PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS. WOULD I BE MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION IN HOLDING OUT FOR SOMEONE ELSE, OR SHOULD I LOOK PAST THIS LITTLE FLAW?
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‘That’s the key to having it all: stop expecting it to look like what you thought it was going to look like.’ This is one of my favourite quotes from Sex and The City, when Carrie Bradshaw questions who she really wants as a partner: is it the one who treats her to lavish dinners, or the one who genuinely cares for her?
The fact is that you’re never going to have the ‘ perfect’ relationship or the ideal man, and the only way to truly embrace the connection you two share is to stop the comparisons to past boyfriends, and the harbouring of unrealistic expectations.That ‘perfect’ man who cooks your dinner, makes you laugh, remembers your mom’s birthday and makes you orgasm every time does not exist.
That said, nding a meaningful and sincere relationship doesn’t mean accepting behaviour you don’t appreciate. It’s about considering what type of partner you want in your life and looking beyond the super cial checklist that dictates the ‘perfect relationship’. If he makes you feel loved and secure, but doesn’t make you laugh, you need to ask yourself this: are you willing to give him up for someone who is emotionally unavailable but has you giggling hysterically? Is it not better to let go of the insigni cant wants like ‘funny’, ‘great hair’ and ‘handy around the house’ for a man you can honestly share your life with? @ZiyaadBassier