Feeling pressure to perform? Can’t blame you: “Women are beginning to demand good sex,” says Fisher. “They’re not just lying back and thinking of England.” Today’s career women, not dependent on marriage, can be pickier, Fisher says. Plus, men have a natural desire to want to please women in bed. The upside of all this? Satisfy her and she’ll invite you back. That said, our survey indicates you’re doing fine. So try to relax a little. Distract yourself by focusing on intimate details – her sounds, her expressions, her nipples. Encourage her to tell you what to do, says Pepper Schwartz, a sexuality expert at the University of Washington. “Sometimes, women are afraid they’ll sound like traffic cops.” Say you like when she tells you what she wants. 71% of women are happy with their sex life. Men: 52%.