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We keep asking, and women keep telling us: more foreplay. In our survey, it beat out oral, touching, kink and dirty talk as their prime request. Women need foreplay for the arousal that leads to desire, says Kerner. His female clients also complain about a limited sex menu, so foreplay’s variety (all that kissing, rubbing, talking, stroking) can work wonders. Even an episode of a hot show like The Girlfriend Experience or Masters of Sex can help. “Humans can get very aroused without any physical touch,” he says. Be showered and ready before you dim the bedroom lights and press play. Tell her she’s hotter than the actress in the show, and let your hands explore each other’s laps. When credits roll, start kissing. Another thing to watch: each other, touching yourselves. And you thought foreplay was boring! 34% of women want more foreplay, the number-one thing they want more of in bed. Number two: touching during sex (22%).