Take our quiz and discover what your relationship clashes say about you
❶ You want a braai and your stokvel members prefer pizza. You:
A. Eat pizza and don’t tell them you hate it. B. Argue over it. The loudest person wins! C. Do their thing today and yours in another meeting. D. End up apologising for even suggesting a braai.
❷ You organise an outing for your members, they:
A. Sit quietly but you know they are bored. B. Mock your choice afterwards, but in a fun way. C. Insist you know what they love doing. D. Talk loudly on their phones all the way through it.
❸ You admire a funky uniform. They:
A. Won’t say a word for or against it. B. Say they always loved bright colours. C. Laugh but support you when you are around. D. Refuse to be seen when wearing that uniform.
❹ You’re constantly going overbudget on everything you organise. They:
A. Don’t say much but you feel guilty. B. Yell and then forgive you. C. Help you figure out what’s going wrong. D. Call you names and humiliate you.
❺ You have a fight with another member. They:
A. Stay out of it. B. Are sure it will blow over. C. Try to mediate. D. Tell you to cut off communication.
❻ You make a suggestion during a meeting. They:
A. Listen but don’t say much. B. Are on your side – and loudly! C. Give you some excellent advice. D. Blame it all on your stupidity.
❼ When your leader is in a bad mood, you:
A. Pretend everything is fine. B. Encourage them to let it all hang out. C. Ask how you can help them feel better. D. Keep out of their way.
❽ After the fight with a member is over, you:
A. Pretend you haven’t fought. B. Kiss and make up. C. Are relieved you’re friends again. D. Worry about the next fight.
❾ Your fights are:
A. Rare. You prefer not to squabble. B. Loud, short and quickly forgiven. C. Rare but when they happen, watch out! D. Constant and nasty.
❿ When you fight you:
A. Never cry – until the stokvel members have gone out. B. Show your emotions without restraint. C. Are careful not to say hurtful things. D. Feel small, miserable and stupid.