WHAT THE SCORES MEAN?
Mostly As Conflict Avoiders
You very seldom argue about anything. Although this may sound good, swallowing your resentment leads to increased stress. Not fulfilling your personal needs will diminish your chances for happiness.
Don’t smother your true feelings; learn to open up to other stokvel members.
Mostly Bs Quick To Fight, Fast To Forgive
As you also tend to make up quickly, your relationship can rival the best soapies. If you enjoy a bit of a row, and your overall relationship is happy, then you have nothing to worry about.
However, if one of you can’t stand the strain, then maybe you’d be better off joining another stokvel.
Mostly Cs Occasional World War III
Most of the time you get along great. You tend to talk things over rather than argue. But every now and again something comes up that you feel passionate about. Before you know it, tempers rise and you are at each other’s throats.
Mostly Ds Armed Warfare
You and your stokvel members argue a lot and unfortunately it’s not a healthy exchange of views that becomes a little too heated or a blazing row that you’re both enjoying. When you argue, you hurt each other with words.
In fact, doctors point out that being stuck in a hostile relationship can make you physically ill. Effects include high blood pressure, high blood sugar, and a higher risk of heart disease.
Fighting is a normal part of even the happiest relationships, however, some fights can turn violent. It need not come to blows either; emotional abuse can destroy your self-confidence and leave you feeling worthless.