Don’t let FAMILY BRING YOU DOWN
FAMILY is supposed to be the centre that holds everything together. When you are in doubt, pain or falling apart because of the pressures of life, family members should be the first people you turn to. But the reality is that some family members are the first to make a circus out of your problems. Instead of being a shoulder to cry on, they turn their backs on you when you need them the most. Instead of understanding, they become judgemental. This brings me to the most important question: who should you share your problems with because bottling them up just makes matters worse? I have a friend who found out that her husband had two children out of wedlock, three years into their marriage. When she found out about this, she fell apart and sought support from family members. They comforted her but before she knew it, she was the talk of town. People in her neighbourhood knew intimate details about her husband’s affairs and how her marriage was falling apart. I told my friend that clearly someone in her family pretended to care but they couldn’t wait to share her misery with the rest of the neighbourhood. It’s usually the people you trust the most who betray you. Every family has its own fair share of problems but rejoicing in a family member’s misfortune is insensitive and cruel.
Have you ever noticed that in most cases weddings, tombstone unveilings or funerals don’t always end in peace? There is always that aunt who starts a fight and will dig the X-files, even when the setting doesn’t allow for that kind of behaviour. Personally, I have a cousin like that who doesn’t know when to stop and is always looking for a fight. They say you can’t choose family but I have made a decision to cut off some family members because they don’t want to see you succeed in life. Instead are constantly looking for faults so that they can bring you down. For those who are sick and tired of being pulled down by their family members, remember it has nothing to do with you. They are the
Nonzwi problem so forget them and live your best life. Take care and until next week!