SIS NALEDI / SEX TALK WITH BABALWA

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Q I NEED LOVE

I’m a 51-year-old sin­gle mother of two chil­dren and I’m still strug­gling to find Mr Right. I’m not in a re­la­tion­ship at the mo­ment and the last time I had sex was three years ago. Does this mean I’ll be sin­gle for­ever? ANONY­MOUS, POLOK­WANE

AThe prob­lem might be ly­ing in your def­i­ni­tion of Mr Right. The older and more ma­ture you get, the more par­tic­u­lar you be­come in se­lect­ing part­ners, which makes your chances of meet­ing Mr Right slim­mer. No one can give you a guar­an­tee of when you will meet a po­ten­tial part­ner but surely you have to be open minded about it.

Q IN LOVE WITH HER EX

I’ve been liv­ing with my

baby­mama for five years. I re­cently found a voice record­ing on her phone con­firm­ing that she is cheat­ing on me with her ex-boyfriend. She is do­ing this for the sec­ond time. It seems that she is not will­ing to leave the exboyfriend. What should I do? ANONY­MOUS, QWAQWA

AIf she is not will­ing to leave him, then that means she wants to have both of you. That be­comes your de­ci­sion on whether you want to be in such a re­la­tion­ship or not. Clearly she has a strong at­tach­ment to that ex that she does not want to break. You need to put your­self first and do what’s best for you.

Naledi Mqhayi is a clin­i­cal psy­chol­o­gist spe­cial­is­ing in re­la­tion­ships and fam­ily ther­apy. She holds a masters de­gree in clin­i­cal psy­chol­ogy from the Med­i­cal Univer­sity of South­ern Africa.

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