SIS NALEDI / SEX TALK WITH BABALWA
Q I NEED LOVE
I’m a 51-year-old single mother of two children and I’m still struggling to find Mr Right. I’m not in a relationship at the moment and the last time I had sex was three years ago. Does this mean I’ll be single forever? ANONYMOUS, POLOKWANE
AThe problem might be lying in your definition of Mr Right. The older and more mature you get, the more particular you become in selecting partners, which makes your chances of meeting Mr Right slimmer. No one can give you a guarantee of when you will meet a potential partner but surely you have to be open minded about it.
Q IN LOVE WITH HER EX
I’ve been living with my
babymama for five years. I recently found a voice recording on her phone confirming that she is cheating on me with her ex-boyfriend. She is doing this for the second time. It seems that she is not willing to leave the exboyfriend. What should I do? ANONYMOUS, QWAQWA
AIf she is not willing to leave him, then that means she wants to have both of you. That becomes your decision on whether you want to be in such a relationship or not. Clearly she has a strong attachment to that ex that she does not want to break. You need to put yourself first and do what’s best for you.
Naledi Mqhayi is a clinical psychologist specialising in relationships and family therapy. She holds a masters degree in clinical psychology from the Medical University of Southern Africa.