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Move! reader was trau­ma­tised when his nude pic­tures ended up on so­cial me­dia

Move! - - CONTENTS - By Des­mond Non­goma*

I’M a 23-year-old man from Mamelodi and I was be­trayed by my brother. The mis­take I made was to trust him with my phone. He used it to send my naked pic­tures to our friends at school. I was an­gry at the time, but I couldn’t do much about it be­cause I didn’t want to upset our par­ents.

HOW IT ALL STARTED

The dif­fer­ence be­tween my brother and I is that he is shy and re­served, whereas I’m con­fi­dent and pop­u­lar. He is so shy that he never even takes pic­tures of him­self. But I never thought that this would make him so jeal­ous of me. At first, things were okay be­tween us but as time went by, I started notic­ing changes in his be­hav­iour to­wards me. He started acussing me of all sorts of things. He said I was a spoilt brat and that our par­ents loved me more than him. I kept quiet even though he was mis­treat­ing me.

TRUST­ING HIM WITH MY PHONE

One day he asked for my cell­phone and said he wanted to down­load some mu­sic. I did not sus­pect any­thing, so I gave it to him. He took things too far when he found nude pic­tures of me and my girl­friend on the phone and up­loaded them on so­cial me­dia. He also told my gilr­friend that I’m only us­ing her for sex, which was not true. The fol­low­ing day at school, ev­ery­one was look­ing at me in a funny way. When I got to my class, I found my girl­friend cry­ing. When I asked her what was wrong, she said, “I loved you and trusted you, and this is the thanks I get?”. I was so shocked, hurt and em­bar­rassed to see our nude pic­tures on her friend’s phone.

LES­SON LEARNED

I was so hurt and an­gry that my brother be­trayed me. I learnt a very painful les­son and my ad­vice to young peo­ple out there is: never take pic­tures of your­self in a com­pro­mis­ing sit­u­a­tion. I have since de­cided to for­give my brother be­cause life is too short to hold grudges. * Not his real name

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