VIC­TORY OVER HIV

Liv­ing with HIV shouldn't make you feel in­fe­rior

Move! - - CONTENTS - By Cle­ment Fana Ntuli

Cle­ment Fana Ntuli is a mo­ti­va­tional speaker and au­thor of the book Turn­ing Tri­als Into Tri­umph. Do you have any HIV-re­lated ques­tions? Email your ques­tion to Cle­ment at clem­n­tuli@ya­hoo.com.

LIV­ING with HIV may make you feel in­fe­rior. Many peo­ple let op­por­tu­ni­ties pass them think­ing they are not suit­able for them be­cause of their HIV sta­tus. Oth­ers feel de­feated and neg­a­tively ac­cept their sta­tus. You may at times even feel that you can­not par­tic­i­pate in a con­ver­sa­tion or share an opin­ion be­cause of the virus. It takes willpower not to let HIV kill your confidence.

YOU ARE BEAU­TI­FUL

Some peo­ple may con­sider you filthy and be dis­gusted to be around you. Do not let such at­ti­tude get to you. You are beau­ti­ful in­side and out. Their at­ti­tude has noth­ing to do with who you are, but only re­veal their ig­no­rance. Rise above feel­ing in­fe­rior.

YOU HAVE A PUR­POSE

We all have a pur­pose and yours goes be­yond liv­ing with HIV. The virus is man­age­able and should not stop you from ful­fill­ing your pur­pose. If you want to be a doc­tor, en­trepreneur or even a pas­tor, the sky is the limit, not HIV. Don't let HIV make you feel in­fe­rior in the light of your dreams.

YOU HAVE A REA­SON TO BE HERE

Just like ev­ery­one else, there is a rea­son you are here. Liv­ing with HIV should not make you feel like your ex­is­tence is a mis­take. You de­serve to be here, so make the best of be­ing here. You are cre­at­ing space for sui­ci­dal thoughts the mo­ment you feel in­fe­rior about your­self.

GET­TING OVER THE NEG­A­TIV­ITY

When peo­ple make you feel in­fe­rior be­cause of your sta­tus, re­move your­self from that sit­u­a­tion. But this may be dif­fi­cult if they are family or close friends. In this case, calmly ex­plain to them how their ac­tions are mak­ing you feel.

Re­mind your­self that you mat­ter and are wor­thy of be­ing treated with respect. Liv­ing with HIV should not change this.

Re­mem­ber that it is not about you when peo­ple treat you badly, but about them and their own is­sues. Tell your­self af­firm­ing state­ments such as, “I am beau­ti­ful” or “I am wor­thy” and re­peat them to your­self when­ever some­one makes you feel in­fe­rior about your sta­tus.

HIV no longer has the power to de­stroy your body as there are an­tiretro­vi­ral drugs (ARVs) to man­age it. The cru­cial thing is to not let it de­stroy your spirit and eat away at your self-es­teem. Rise above the in­fe­rior com­plex by walking tall and not be­ing afraid to go for any op­por­tu­ni­ties that come your way.

Try your luck in ro­mance, fur­ther your stud­ies and break free from feel­ing that you are less hu­man just be­cause you are liv­ing with HIV.

There’s more to you than the virus and you are en­ti­tled to be happy just like ev­ery­one else.

YOU ARE EN­TI­TLED TO BE HAPPY JUST LIKE EV­ERY­ONE

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