VICTORY OVER HIV
Living with HIV shouldn't make you feel inferior
Clement Fana Ntuli is a motivational speaker and author of the book Turning Trials Into Triumph. Do you have any HIV-related questions? Email your question to Clement at firstname.lastname@example.org.
LIVING with HIV may make you feel inferior. Many people let opportunities pass them thinking they are not suitable for them because of their HIV status. Others feel defeated and negatively accept their status. You may at times even feel that you cannot participate in a conversation or share an opinion because of the virus. It takes willpower not to let HIV kill your confidence.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
Some people may consider you filthy and be disgusted to be around you. Do not let such attitude get to you. You are beautiful inside and out. Their attitude has nothing to do with who you are, but only reveal their ignorance. Rise above feeling inferior.
YOU HAVE A PURPOSE
We all have a purpose and yours goes beyond living with HIV. The virus is manageable and should not stop you from fulfilling your purpose. If you want to be a doctor, entrepreneur or even a pastor, the sky is the limit, not HIV. Don't let HIV make you feel inferior in the light of your dreams.
YOU HAVE A REASON TO BE HERE
Just like everyone else, there is a reason you are here. Living with HIV should not make you feel like your existence is a mistake. You deserve to be here, so make the best of being here. You are creating space for suicidal thoughts the moment you feel inferior about yourself.
GETTING OVER THE NEGATIVITY
When people make you feel inferior because of your status, remove yourself from that situation. But this may be difficult if they are family or close friends. In this case, calmly explain to them how their actions are making you feel.
Remind yourself that you matter and are worthy of being treated with respect. Living with HIV should not change this.
Remember that it is not about you when people treat you badly, but about them and their own issues. Tell yourself affirming statements such as, “I am beautiful” or “I am worthy” and repeat them to yourself whenever someone makes you feel inferior about your status.
HIV no longer has the power to destroy your body as there are antiretroviral drugs (ARVs) to manage it. The crucial thing is to not let it destroy your spirit and eat away at your self-esteem. Rise above the inferior complex by walking tall and not being afraid to go for any opportunities that come your way.
Try your luck in romance, further your studies and break free from feeling that you are less human just because you are living with HIV.
There’s more to you than the virus and you are entitled to be happy just like everyone else.
YOU ARE ENTITLED TO BE HAPPY JUST LIKE EVERYONE