Wait on God and let the Holy Spirit guide you to your life-long partner
SReverend Sifiso Ngcobo is a pastor at Change Bible Church based in Roodeport, west of Joburg. He is also a marriage counsellor and regular speaker at relationship seminars and conferences. He can be contacted on email@example.com. OCIETY and religions have various rites of passages you must successfully complete in order to be recognised as mature and responsible. In Western society, dating is one of these rites of passages and the term comes from the idea of setting a date where two or more people agree to get together at a certain time and place for recreation and fellowship.
A WELL DECIDED DECISION
Dating is common in society, however, it is not the preferred norm for Christians. While the Bible doesn’t speak of dating, there are important principles Christians can observe.
One of the pitfalls of dating is becoming involved with someone emotionally and physically too quickly, leading to inappropriate behaviour such as premarital sex, which the Bible is against. Healthy relationships should always begin at a spiritual and intellectual level. The physical dimension is the least important, yet this is where many people usually start.
Falling in love is a well-thought out decision which is not influenced by emotions, but by what I call “a well decided-decision”.
IT’S OKAY TO WAIT
Society looks down on single people, with the church sometimes falling into the trap of undermining them as inadequate or incomplete.
Before God brought Eve to Adam, he was alone, yet not lonely. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Loneliness is an indication of a miserable individual.
In 1 Corinthians 7:26-35, Paul explains that an unmarried person is concerned with the Lord’s affairs, while a married person is concerned with pleasing their spouse. Like Adam, let your partner find you occupied with the Lord’s affairs, preparing yourself for whoever God has prepared for you.
COURTSHIP AND LONG-TERM COMMITMENT
Marriage is a formal relationship and lifetime covenant created by God between man and woman.
We are spirit-led beings and two souls marry spiritually before they marry physically. That is why most people know whether someone is the right one before they approach them because the Holy Spirit must have convicted them in choosing a lifetime partner.