Women should build each other
Mother of two urges women to invest in themselves and in supporting each other
THIS year the singer, Unathi Nkayi, is turning 40 and she is looking as radiant as ever. The divorced mother of two recently shared that her great body is a result of seven years of sheer hard work and determination. She encourages women to take control of their lives, and make the necessary changes.
Before the Idols judge dedicated some time in her busy schedule, especially for her health, she weighed almost 100kg. The former Metro FM presenter has gradually lost over 30kg in seven years. The star says it was never easy, but she enjoyed the journey.
“I’ve loved every moment, every victory and every challenge. I’ve enjoyed seeing my body evolve,” she shares.
Every woman’s body changes after giving birth, but things are a little different when one is in the public eye. The musician says she had never been hard on herself even as a full figured woman, saying her self-esteem has always been intact.
“I was never mean or belittled myself. I was always kind and loving to myself. I knew what I had set out to achieve,” she says.
Looking back, the musician remembers having a flabby belly, and stretch marks all over her body. She has managed to get rid of the two most common female body issues. She encourages women to claim back their control, and do it with love. “It’s not that difficult. All you need to be successful is consistency, repetition and a routine that is appropriate for you,” she advises.
The artist says she always remains true to herself, and refuses to succumb to the pressures that come with being in the public space.
“I am far from being superhuman and won’t portray myself to be,” she shares.
Even though the star is a strong and independent woman, she says the external noise had in the past got to her. She says there’s nothing as sad as a woman trying to break another woman’s spirit. She says women need to learn to build each other.
“As women we have previously been harsh to one another, but I am definitely feeling a shift in that. I appreciate the support and love we are giving each other,” she says.
Late last year, the artist and her husband of eight years, Thomas Msengane, announced that they had gone separate ways. She focuses all her energy on raising her children.
The hands-on mom enjoys motherhood. She says that she makes sure that she’s present at every single step they take. “I make sure that I am present at every turn and with every responsibility. I juggle both because that’s what God intended me to do,’’ she says.
I WAS ALWAYS KIND AND LOVING TO MYSELF