Women should build each other

Mother of two urges women to in­vest in them­selves and in sup­port­ing each other

Move! - - CONTENTS - By Palesa Mat­je­bele

THIS year the singer, Unathi Nkayi, is turn­ing 40 and she is look­ing as ra­di­ant as ever. The di­vorced mother of two re­cently shared that her great body is a re­sult of seven years of sheer hard work and de­ter­mi­na­tion. She en­cour­ages women to take con­trol of their lives, and make the nec­es­sary changes.

TAK­ING CON­TROL

Be­fore the Idols judge ded­i­cated some time in her busy sched­ule, es­pe­cially for her health, she weighed al­most 100kg. The for­mer Metro FM pre­sen­ter has grad­u­ally lost over 30kg in seven years. The star says it was never easy, but she en­joyed the jour­ney.

“I’ve loved every mo­ment, every vic­tory and every chal­lenge. I’ve en­joyed see­ing my body evolve,” she shares.

Every woman’s body changes af­ter giv­ing birth, but things are a lit­tle dif­fer­ent when one is in the pub­lic eye. The mu­si­cian says she had never been hard on her­self even as a full fig­ured woman, say­ing her self-es­teem has al­ways been in­tact.

“I was never mean or be­lit­tled my­self. I was al­ways kind and lov­ing to my­self. I knew what I had set out to achieve,” she says.

Look­ing back, the mu­si­cian re­mem­bers hav­ing a flabby belly, and stretch marks all over her body. She has man­aged to get rid of the two most com­mon fe­male body is­sues. She en­cour­ages women to claim back their con­trol, and do it with love. “It’s not that dif­fi­cult. All you need to be suc­cess­ful is con­sis­tency, rep­e­ti­tion and a rou­tine that is ap­pro­pri­ate for you,” she ad­vises.

BE­ING HOPE­FUL

The artist says she al­ways re­mains true to her­self, and re­fuses to suc­cumb to the pres­sures that come with be­ing in the pub­lic space.

“I am far from be­ing su­per­hu­man and won’t por­tray my­self to be,” she shares.

Even though the star is a strong and in­de­pen­dent woman, she says the ex­ter­nal noise had in the past got to her. She says there’s noth­ing as sad as a woman try­ing to break an­other woman’s spirit. She says women need to learn to build each other.

“As women we have pre­vi­ously been harsh to one an­other, but I am def­i­nitely feel­ing a shift in that. I ap­pre­ci­ate the sup­port and love we are giv­ing each other,” she says.

THRIV­ING

Late last year, the artist and her hus­band of eight years, Thomas Msen­gane, an­nounced that they had gone sep­a­rate ways. She fo­cuses all her en­ergy on rais­ing her chil­dren.

The hands-on mom en­joys mother­hood. She says that she makes sure that she’s present at every sin­gle step they take. “I make sure that I am present at every turn and with every re­spon­si­bil­ity. I jug­gle both be­cause that’s what God in­tended me to do,’’ she says.

I WAS AL­WAYS KIND AND LOV­ING TO MY­SELF

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