‘God is the only fa­ther I know’

EFF’s Mbuyiseni Nd­lozi shares the lit­tle me­mories he has of his fa­ther and how he met him

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I WANTED TO HOLD A GRUDGE FOR THE LONG­EST TIME

MBUYISENI Nd­lozi, the na­tional spokesper­son of the Eco­nomic Free­dom Fight­ers (EFF) or the peo­ple’s bae as he is nick­named, was raised by a strong sin­gle woman. Dur­ing a re­cent in­ter­view on Metro FM, he shared the lit­tle me­mories he had of his fa­ther, whom he un­know­ingly met when he was 13 years old. He says they never had a good re­la­tion­ship, only spend­ing a few min­utes to­gether. The spir­i­tual man says God is the only fa­ther he ever knew.

THE DREAD­FUL MEET­INGS

The peo­ple’s bae said there were three in­ci­dents when he met his fa­ther. “The first time, my mother tried to con­nect us. There was this mo­ment where she’s like, ‘go to that car’. So I give this guy some­thing and then came back. She’s like ‘re­mem­ber the story I told you about your fa­ther? That was your fa­ther. He will make an ap­point­ment for you to meet prop­erly’,” Mbuyiseni said dur­ing the in­ter­view. But his fa­ther never made the ap­point­ment.

Asked what he was told about his fa­ther, Mbuyiseni said when his mother fell preg­nant, they went to his fa­ther’s fam­ily, but they were chased away. “He was com­plicit through­out,” he said. The sec­ond meet­ing was when Mbuyiseni passed ma­tric.

“He came and parked on the street and sent some­body to call me. I then re­fused, but my grand­mother said, ‘tra­di­tion­ally, he can’t en­ter, he’d have to be led by his fam­ily’,” he said.

His fa­ther asked him whether he was go­ing to univer­sity and ad­vised him to stay away from drugs.

“The con­ver­sa­tion lasted for about 10 min­utes. Later on he said I hear you are a very faith­ful church boy and go to church every Sun­day and I said God is the only fa­ther I know,” Mbuyiseni added. Mbuyiseni, who holds a PhD in po­lit­i­cal stud­ies, met his fa­ther for the third time while he was do­ing his re­search for his the­sis. Asked how he felt about his fa­ther not be­ing in his life, he said, “I wanted to hold a grudge for the long­est time, but that would mean I am not ap­pre­cia­tive, that would mean I’m say­ing my mom was not enough. I for­gave him.”

OVER­COM­ING POVERTY

Mbuyiseni grew up in a poverty-stricken en­vi­ron­ment. He says his mother would go for months with­out work and when she fi­nally got a job, all the money went to­wards trans­port. Even with his back­ground, Mbuyiseni’s suc­cess did not come as a sur­prise.

In 2002, he was in­ter­viewed on SABC2’s Morn­ing Live af­ter he won a Young Com­mu­ni­ca­tor’s Award. The teenager showed en­thu­si­asm and shared his in­ter­est in hu­man psy­chol­ogy, say­ing he be­lieved that by so do­ing, he would ful­fil his pur­pose.

“I’m aware that the prob­lem in the world is the mind. Poverty is the state of the mind. I want to deal with the hu­man mind. I be­lieve that I was born to make a change,” the young Mbuyiseni said.

FIRM BE­LIEVER IN WOMEN

He said he wants to have a daugh­ter one day. “I’m much more at­tracted by the idea of rais­ing a strong fe­male in a world that’s deny­ing women ex­is­tence,” he shared.

He also shared that his life is in­flu­enced by women of power, and that’s one of the rea­sons he wants to have a daugh­ter.

He said he wants to change the way the world views women. “I have never quite had a sight of strong men. The ma­jor­ity of my ex­po­si­tion to men was weak, al­ways prone to vi­o­lence and al­ways think­ing with fists than their brains,” he ex­plains.

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