‘God is the only father I know’
EFF’s Mbuyiseni Ndlozi shares the little memories he has of his father and how he met him
I WANTED TO HOLD A GRUDGE FOR THE LONGEST TIME
MBUYISENI Ndlozi, the national spokesperson of the Economic Freedom Fighters (EFF) or the people’s bae as he is nicknamed, was raised by a strong single woman. During a recent interview on Metro FM, he shared the little memories he had of his father, whom he unknowingly met when he was 13 years old. He says they never had a good relationship, only spending a few minutes together. The spiritual man says God is the only father he ever knew.
THE DREADFUL MEETINGS
The people’s bae said there were three incidents when he met his father. “The first time, my mother tried to connect us. There was this moment where she’s like, ‘go to that car’. So I give this guy something and then came back. She’s like ‘remember the story I told you about your father? That was your father. He will make an appointment for you to meet properly’,” Mbuyiseni said during the interview. But his father never made the appointment.
Asked what he was told about his father, Mbuyiseni said when his mother fell pregnant, they went to his father’s family, but they were chased away. “He was complicit throughout,” he said. The second meeting was when Mbuyiseni passed matric.
“He came and parked on the street and sent somebody to call me. I then refused, but my grandmother said, ‘traditionally, he can’t enter, he’d have to be led by his family’,” he said.
His father asked him whether he was going to university and advised him to stay away from drugs.
“The conversation lasted for about 10 minutes. Later on he said I hear you are a very faithful church boy and go to church every Sunday and I said God is the only father I know,” Mbuyiseni added. Mbuyiseni, who holds a PhD in political studies, met his father for the third time while he was doing his research for his thesis. Asked how he felt about his father not being in his life, he said, “I wanted to hold a grudge for the longest time, but that would mean I am not appreciative, that would mean I’m saying my mom was not enough. I forgave him.”
Mbuyiseni grew up in a poverty-stricken environment. He says his mother would go for months without work and when she finally got a job, all the money went towards transport. Even with his background, Mbuyiseni’s success did not come as a surprise.
In 2002, he was interviewed on SABC2’s Morning Live after he won a Young Communicator’s Award. The teenager showed enthusiasm and shared his interest in human psychology, saying he believed that by so doing, he would fulfil his purpose.
“I’m aware that the problem in the world is the mind. Poverty is the state of the mind. I want to deal with the human mind. I believe that I was born to make a change,” the young Mbuyiseni said.
FIRM BELIEVER IN WOMEN
He said he wants to have a daughter one day. “I’m much more attracted by the idea of raising a strong female in a world that’s denying women existence,” he shared.
He also shared that his life is influenced by women of power, and that’s one of the reasons he wants to have a daughter.
He said he wants to change the way the world views women. “I have never quite had a sight of strong men. The majority of my exposition to men was weak, always prone to violence and always thinking with fists than their brains,” he explains.