A Move! reader shares how having sex at a young age left her with a lot of regret
MY life changed in 2016 when I was 16 years old and in Grade 11. It was in that year that I learned that life is not fair when I fell in love with a deceitful person. I trusted him, but as I was young, I didn’t know anything about life. I didn't know how a woman should handle herself in a relationship, how to prevent an unwanted pregnancy and how to prevent getting hurt.
I FELL PREGNANT
I slept with my then loving boyfriend and fell pregnant.
I thought of committing suicide because I knew that I would be in trouble with my family.
And indeed things changed at home. My family abandoned me and I felt lost.
In the meantime, there were complications in my relationship with my then boyfriend. Eventually, he dumped me.
I felt used and lost my pride. My heart was bleeding.
THINGS GOT TOUGHER
I dropped out of school to raise a fatherless child. Things got tougher and I started to see my dreams fading away. I lost my purpose.
I was stressed and lost a lot of weight. I was in so much pain. I was sick from stress and ended up in hospital for a month. I also experienced the stress of borrowing money from loan sharks not knowing how I was going to pay it back.
So I went to social workers for help. Luckily, my mother gave me money, which I used to look after my baby. My aunt offered to look after my baby so that I could go back to school. Although I had to repeat Grade 11, I am currently 18 years old and in Grade 12. I am now focusing on school.
I want to encourage other young people to focus on education because it is the only thing that will give you freedom. * Not her real name
I FELT USED AND LOST MY PRIDE. MY HEART WAS BLEEDING