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A Move! reader shares how hav­ing sex at a young age left her with a lot of re­gret

Move! - - CONTENTS - By Soso Ma­banga*

MY life changed in 2016 when I was 16 years old and in Grade 11. It was in that year that I learned that life is not fair when I fell in love with a de­ceit­ful per­son. I trusted him, but as I was young, I didn’t know any­thing about life. I didn't know how a woman should han­dle her­self in a re­la­tion­ship, how to pre­vent an un­wanted preg­nancy and how to pre­vent get­ting hurt.

I FELL PREG­NANT

I slept with my then lov­ing boyfriend and fell preg­nant.

I thought of com­mit­ting sui­cide be­cause I knew that I would be in trou­ble with my fam­ily.

And in­deed things changed at home. My fam­ily aban­doned me and I felt lost.

In the mean­time, there were com­pli­ca­tions in my re­la­tion­ship with my then boyfriend. Even­tu­ally, he dumped me.

I felt used and lost my pride. My heart was bleed­ing.

THINGS GOT TOUGHER

I dropped out of school to raise a fa­ther­less child. Things got tougher and I started to see my dreams fad­ing away. I lost my pur­pose.

I was stressed and lost a lot of weight. I was in so much pain. I was sick from stress and ended up in hospi­tal for a month. I also ex­pe­ri­enced the stress of bor­row­ing money from loan sharks not know­ing how I was go­ing to pay it back.

So I went to so­cial work­ers for help. Luck­ily, my mother gave me money, which I used to look af­ter my baby. My aunt of­fered to look af­ter my baby so that I could go back to school. Al­though I had to re­peat Grade 11, I am cur­rently 18 years old and in Grade 12. I am now fo­cus­ing on school.

I want to en­cour­age other young peo­ple to fo­cus on ed­u­ca­tion be­cause it is the only thing that will give you free­dom. * Not her real name

I FELT USED AND LOST MY PRIDE. MY HEART WAS BLEED­ING

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