Move! readers advise a woman who unknowingly got married to a man who has another wife
QHE IS STILL MARRIED TO HIS FIRST WIFE
I don’t know if I am married or not! I have been in a relationship with this man for more than three years.
All along, I thought he was divorced. This was until I recently found out that he was still married to his first wife. It seems he has been lying to both of us.
Whenever he goes to his first wife, he tells me that he’s going away for work and apparently he does the same thing when he comes to me.
Last year, he sent money for lobola to my family through a mutual friend, but there was never a wedding ceremony.
What’s hurting me more is that I have never met any of his relatives. No one knows me and I don’t know any of them. I tried to leave him so many times after finding out that he was still married, but he always manipulates his way back into my life. Is this thing marriage or he only paid lobola so that I could stay?
I don’t think you need to be with a man who disrespects you, even if he paid lobola. You deserve better. If he can’t be with only one woman, then he doesn’t deserve to be with you at all. Set yourself free from this man.
You are wasting your time in this marriage because your man has another wife. What is pathetic is that you don’t even know his family members or relatives. I shudder to think what will happen to you when he passes away.
Your so-called husband does not have your interest at heart. The time you are wasting with him could have been spent with someone who is honest to make you his only wife. This man is selfish and jealous of you.
If you can put yourself in the first wife’s shoes, you will realise the pain you have actually caused her. Imagine being married to someone and discovering that another woman stays with him. This is sad.