Tough It Out
WHEN you walk into a party and discover your skirt is tucked into your tights, your natural impulse may be to hide in the bathroom for the rest of the night. But that might draw the kind of attention to yourself that has nothing to do with the incident. For example, other people might think you’re avoiding them and start avoiding you, says Allyn. So – grin, fix your skirt and tough it out.
THE same rule applies for kids. When your child feels she’s embarrassed herself at school, she may want to cancel Saturday’s sleepover. Gently encourage her to reconsider and focus on things that went well that day. “This will help her put things in perspective,” explains paediatric psychologist Lynne Kenney.
Finally, suggest something to say if classmates bring up the incident, such as: “That was no fun! Do you want to see my new bracelet?”
ACT as if it’s no big deal and others will probably follow suit and lose interest in the incident. Similarly, if your children see you laugh when you realise your shirt has been misbuttoned all morning, maybe they’ll giggle when the same thing happens to them.