Tough It Out

People (South Africa) - - Real Life -

WHEN you walk into a party and dis­cover your skirt is tucked into your tights, your nat­u­ral im­pulse may be to hide in the bath­room for the rest of the night. But that might draw the kind of at­ten­tion to your­self that has noth­ing to do with the in­ci­dent. For ex­am­ple, other peo­ple might think you’re avoid­ing them and start avoid­ing you, says Al­lyn. So – grin, fix your skirt and tough it out.

THE same rule ap­plies for kids. When your child feels she’s em­bar­rassed her­self at school, she may want to can­cel Satur­day’s sleep­over. Gen­tly en­cour­age her to re­con­sider and fo­cus on things that went well that day. “This will help her put things in per­spec­tive,” ex­plains pae­di­atric psy­chol­o­gist Lynne Ken­ney.

Fi­nally, sug­gest some­thing to say if class­mates bring up the in­ci­dent, such as: “That was no fun! Do you want to see my new bracelet?”

ACT as if it’s no big deal and oth­ers will prob­a­bly fol­low suit and lose in­ter­est in the in­ci­dent. Sim­i­larly, if your chil­dren see you laugh when you re­alise your shirt has been mis­but­toned all morn­ing, maybe they’ll gig­gle when the same thing hap­pens to them.

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