Heal­ing mem­oir of love and loss

Post - - News - NA­DIA KHAN

AVE you ever had your heart bro­ken and ripped out of your chest while it is still beat­ing? Lost your job, ma­te­rial pos­ses­sions or been broke? Been abused, con­tem­plated sui­cide or felt con­stantly kicked down by life? And have you ever felt you don’t be­long, born out of time or just lonely?”

These are the thoughts that flowed through the mind of Asheen Dayal, as he sat down to write his first book,

, two years ago.

Go­ing through dif­fer­ent emo­tions at the end of a re­la­tion­ship, and all the chal­lenges that fol­lowed, the au­thor’s weapon of re­cov­ery was to ex­press his feel­ings of anger, grief and pain by writ­ing let­ters to the wo­man he loved.

Although he never sent her the let­ters, Dayal ad­dressed them to her, telling her of his tri­als and tribu­la­tions in the year when he lost every­thing.

He said the con­tent was unadul­ter­ated, unedited and real.

“I went from be­ing an un­savoury self-made high-fly­ing mul­ti­mil­lion­aire ex­ec­u­tive to self-in­flicted benev­o­lent poverty,” said Dayal, formerly from Dur­ban.

“Ev­ery­one tries to hide the bad and only tell the good. How­ever, life is not about the fake happy posts on Facebook walls and In­sta­gram feeds. I tell of it all and purge my soul in my book.”

, he added, is a #El­lyphantshoe mem­oir of love and loss. It tells the story of him grap­pling with daily life, then delves into those life events and his past.

This in­cluded dis­cov­er­ing his her­itage and that his great-grand­fa­ther, Shri Bhawani San­nyasi Dayal, was an au­thor who



#El­lyphantshoe, Biog­ra­phy of Ma­hatma . Gandhi

Dayal, who now lives in Johannesburg, said he had not en­vis­aged that the sin­gle hand­writ­ten let­ter he penned to the love of his life, a for­mer girl­friend who left him for an­other man, would lead to him be­com­ing an au­thor.

“I know she would not care if I was dead or alive and chose to be de­lib­er­ately obliv­i­ous to my plight… but I want the read­ers to live and walk the life of an­other’s path…

“If all I ever achieve is one other per­son iden­ti­fy­ing with my story, and if I, in some small way, can help them through this drudgery we call life, then I am con­tent.”

He added that he wanted to give his read­ers in­sight, from a man’s per­spec­tive, on break-ups and on the fact that men also get their hearts bro­ken.

“Ev­ery story I have ever read sought to por­tray good women who are al­ways scarred by das­tardly men, but the op­po­site is true more of­ten than the world is will­ing to ad­mit.”

He plans to write at least one more book as ei­ther a pre­quel or se­quel.

“Writ­ing the book and the dis­cov­ery of my long-lost her­itage has placed me on a dif­fer­ent path in life.”

In keep­ing with the mod­ern theme, Dayal pub­lished the book on the on­line Ama­zon Kin­dle Book­store ear­lier this month, with a pa­per­back ver­sion planned for late 2018.

The book writ­ten by Asheen Dayal, takes read­ers on a jour­ney - from cop­ing with the loss of a lover to dis­cov­er­ing his her­itage.

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