Woman forgives dad for killing mom
Dialogue session helps heal 12-year wound
A 24-year-old woman whose father killed her mother when she was only 11 years old, forgave him yesterday.
Kelebogile Lekwene told people at the victim-offender dialogue session in Mahikeng, North West that she chose to forgive her father Gili Bokwa after 12 years.
The dialogue session provided the opportunity for parolees to meet face-to-face with their victims or their families at Mmabatho Civic Centre to ask for forgiveness.
Lekwene said she never visited her father in jail because of her anger over what he did, forcing her and her sister, who was five at the time, to grow up without parents.
She said her father always wrote letters to them asking for forgiveness but she did not care or respond to him.
It was only late last year when her father called her before his parole hearing and explained why he had killed her mother that she was able to forgive him.
“I could see that he was speaking from the depth of his heart. He said he was sorry and I cried,” she said.
Lekwane refused to share the reasons her dad had given for committing the crime.
Her father hugged her and said: “I really regret what I have done. I killed your mother and made you go through an unbearable pain. I am truly sorry.”
The two did not explain how the murder happened as they both burst into tears when asked that question.
Lekwane said the loss of both parents, with dad going to jail, left a void in her life.
“I lost both parents at the same time. My mother was dead because my father killed her. I could not understand that,” she said.
Lekwane, who managed to pass matric despite falling pregnant in her final year, said she believed she could have had her degree if she did not have to take care of her sister.
Her mother’s family assisted in her upbringing.
She also blamed her pregnancy on the lack of parental advice.
North West premier Supra Mahumapelo, who led the sessions, called on people to forgive those who had wronged them.
“Forgiveness helps you, the person who is offended, with internal healing and reconciling with your emotions.
“It helps you not to have other problems like stress and fatigue that might affect you negatively going forward...
“It has a negative energy, which is draining,” he said.
Murder convict Gili Bokwa and daughter Kelebogile Lekwene have finally reconciled. Lekwele has forgiven Bokwa, who is serving time in jail, for killing her mother.