You & me
EMOTIONAL health benefits can come when adults intentionally develop deeper, appropriate connections with “family of origin”.
The intentional act of getting to know parents (where possible) and siblings better can realign an entire family.
The thought of such an adventure may be scary.
Except in rare, extreme crcumstances* – I believe this is really worth doing:
The people who have known you the longest and with whom you share a somewhat common history require no introduction. The “work” can begin right away with your first suggestion that you get to know each other better.
Time, distance, and life’s daily challengers can distort and transform memories. When the memories are challenged, if there is openness to it, lives can be transformed. A sibling’s experience on a common event can lead to greater appreciation and acceptance of why and how things were the way they were.
While the deliberate search for deeper connection may not necessitate conflict, it certainly might. Such healthy conflict is better faced than denied if deeper connections are to be formed.
Getting to know your family better need not be an intense or trying experience. A few shared meals and the desire to tell a lot of stories is all that is required.
*Where physical violence or sexual violations have occurred