More to me than my nat­u­ral hair

The Star Early Edition - - OPINION & ANALYSIS -

EVER since I started on my nat­u­ral hair jour­ney in 2014, I have no­ticed a trend in the type of guys who ap­proach me.

Af­ter a day or two of be­ing ac­quainted, they start open­ing up about the real rea­son they want me. It has be­come like a re­hearsed song to my ears now: “I want you be­cause you have nat­u­ral hair. You’re not like these girls’ bama-weaves, aba-too fake”.

It got worse when I was in­tro­duced to maxi skirts and head­wraps.

They just kept pour­ing like a leak­ing tap, which can be very an­noy­ing.

It’s the same thing with all of them. “You have nat­u­ral hair, long skirt, and a head wrap. I want a woman like you.”

So they like the idea of what they see, but not me. Not know­ing that I might just be lazy or plain sick.

I’m sorry, but I am not my hair, I am not my clothes and I am not your ex­pec­ta­tions.

Some­times I wear my hair nat­u­ral; some­times I put a weave on.

Some­times I have eye­liner on; at times I’m on full make-up with eye­brows on fleek. I wear maxi skirts and some­times I wear leg­gings. Don’t let your judg­ment of me be based on what you see, be­cause I’m just sick and tired of the “I want you be­cause you’ve got nat­u­ral hair” type of guy.

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