More to me than my natural hair
EVER since I started on my natural hair journey in 2014, I have noticed a trend in the type of guys who approach me.
After a day or two of being acquainted, they start opening up about the real reason they want me. It has become like a rehearsed song to my ears now: “I want you because you have natural hair. You’re not like these girls’ bama-weaves, aba-too fake”.
It got worse when I was introduced to maxi skirts and headwraps.
They just kept pouring like a leaking tap, which can be very annoying.
It’s the same thing with all of them. “You have natural hair, long skirt, and a head wrap. I want a woman like you.”
So they like the idea of what they see, but not me. Not knowing that I might just be lazy or plain sick.
I’m sorry, but I am not my hair, I am not my clothes and I am not your expectations.
Sometimes I wear my hair natural; sometimes I put a weave on.
Sometimes I have eyeliner on; at times I’m on full make-up with eyebrows on fleek. I wear maxi skirts and sometimes I wear leggings. Don’t let your judgment of me be based on what you see, because I’m just sick and tired of the “I want you because you’ve got natural hair” type of guy.