Tears or sex after a tiff?
THERE are two sides to every argument – and, it seems, to patching things up afterwards.
For men and women want very different types of apology following a tiff, researchers claim.
She wants him to cry and spend quality time with her, to show he is emotionally invested in the relationship... while he just wants her to offer him sex.
The different expectations of each partner after an argument have been detailed by US psychologist Dr Joel Wade.
Wade, of Bucknell University in Pennsylvania, asked 36 men and 38 women who took part in an online survey to specify what they would do, grouping the responses into 21 possible behaviours.
These were then suggested to another group, comprising 41 men and 123 women, who were asked to rate how effective they would consider each strategy.
Wade, whose findings are published in the journal Evolutionary Psychological Science, found that men said the most effective way for a partner to say sorry was by giving or receiving sexual favours.
However, women rated a partner spending time with them, apologising and crying, as the best way to make up.
Wade said his findings showed “partial support for our prediction that men and women would differ by which reconciliation tactics they rate as most effective”.
He added: “These findings are consistent with prior research showing that men are more likely to expel a mate due to sexual inaccessibility.”