Actor shares his abusive past to help men change
RESPECT your sperm.
This was the advice to men from legendary actor Sello Maake ka Ncube at the launch of the AfriMan Rising campaign at the Tshwane University of Technology’s Ga-Rankuwa campus.
He said the campaign was to raise awareness of the issues men had to discuss in order to stop being abusive.
“The purpose of AfriMan Rising comes out of where manhood is at the moment and how it has been for the past 40 years.”
Talking about men’s issues was a difficult subject, he said, and shared the father-son relationship he had with his sons.
It was important for fathers to be there for their sons… to show them right from wrong, he said. “I too wish that there were things my father had taught me.”
Ncube advised the young men at the launch to “respect their sperm”.
The campaign is the brainchild of the actor, producer and local hero, and targets men in institutions of higher learning.
It will promote the important issue of gender sensitivity among South African men, speakers said at the launch on Friday.
Ncube said the idea came to him when he was forced to face his own issues of being abusive, and he took the audience on the journey he walked to realising his abusive past.
“I’m overwhelmed. I never thought this moment would come. The conversation about men has been something that touched me from when I was 24,” he said.
“At the time, the manifestations of me being abusive showed themselves and I was fortunate in one aspect, that I listened to that little voice inside me.”
Because he listened, the abuse became something he questioned for the longest time in his life before he could begin to act on it, he pointed out.
“It was only in 1998, when I heard of a group of young men in Alexandra saying they wanted to do a play about how they had changed, that I said: ‘That’s it, that is my moment to go in and interrogate this subject’,” Ncube recalled.
He said the most interesting time was when he and the men talked about manhood and came up with a play titled, Komeng, or initiation school for men.
He recalled the emotional state the men were in when they talked about manhood.
“In that room in 1998, the lot that we talked about, the pain that we had known, that we experienced, brought us to tears in that room…”
Young guys, respect your sperm
‘LISTEN UP’: Actor Sello Maake ka Ncube said he embraced the voice within and changed his ways.