Ed’s let­ter

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I’ve never been a girl who dreamt of a fairy­tale wed­ding. Bein­gashy­per­son, Iwasquite­com­fort­able with the idea of hav­ing a small, in­ti­mate wed­ding. How­ever, as my hus­band and I are both first­borns, our fam­i­lies were adamant that we should have a big wed­ding cel­e­bra­tion – first at my par­ents’ house and then the fol­low­ing week at his par­ents’ home. I didn’t want to go the tra­di­tional route – buy­ing the white dress, plan­ning dé­cor, pre­par­ing the menu, or­gan­is­ing a venue, etc. So, my part­ner and I did the cra­zi­est thing – we de­cided to go and ex­change our vows at the near­est Home Af­fairs Depart­ment. You can imag­ine how up­set our fam­i­lies were when we in­vited them to din­ner and broke the news.

I think it is mostly my un­cles who still yearn for a wed­ding cer­e­mony be­cause it would have been an hon­our for one of them to walk me down the aisle. I won­der who it would have been as I have five un­cles.

Putting to­gether this is­sue, I couldn’t help but wish that the cur­rent mod­ernist wed­ding trends ex­isted when I got mar­ried. To­day’s brides can choose from monochrome to beach to eclec­tic wed­ding themes – ideas I would have gone for my­self. I can now imag­ine opt­ing for a clas­sic jump­suit and sneak­ers, such as the likes of Solange Knowles. How won­der­ful would it have been to wed by the sea­side, ar­riv­ing on vintage bikes?

NowIun­der­stand­whatit­takesto­plan awed­ding – from bud­get­ing to look­ing flaw­less on your big day. I’m tempted to have a wed­ding as a re­newal of our vows on our 10-year an­niver­sary, a mile­stone that isn’t easy to achieve, but pos­si­ble with pa­tience and un­der­stand­ing. Talk­ing to our cover star, ac­tress Mam­pho Bres­cia, and other celebri­ties, it’s clear that there’s no for­mula for mar­riage. You need to main­tain your in­di­vid­u­al­ity, but more im­por­tantly, keep the com­mu­ni­ca­tion lines open and work with your part­ner to keep ro­mance alive.

There’s noth­ing more ex­cit­ing than plan­ning your big day, and in this is­sue, we hope to in­spire you to make it the event of your dreams. Here’s to your great wed­ding!

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