It was love at first sight for young NONKUTHALO and REARABETSWE THITHI when they met at university.
My husband and I met at the University of Cape Town. We were studying in the same faculty and met on the first day of O - Week. About a year later we started dating and have been together ever since.
My favourite moment of our wedding was when we were standing in front of our guests, about to say our vows, and my uncle drove right in front of us in his yellow bakkie, spoiling the view for everyone. Rabi and I looked at each other and we both started laughing. We knew at that point that nothing was in our control and we had to just relax and enjoy the day. Nothing went wrong that day because we made room for anything to happen. We were just so happy to be married.
We faced many challenges putting our wedding together, but that’s part of the process. We realised very early that a wedding is not only about the people getting married, but their families, friends and community too. It’s what makes a wedding so special. We planned everything ourselves, so it was tough sometimes, but we felt so blessed to have the opportunity to celebrate our union. We focused on getting married and tried not to stress about the rest. It’s easy to get worked up over small details, but on the day you don’t remember any of them and they do not change how special the day is.
Leading up to the wedding, I felt excited knowing that we wanted to be married and start our life together. It was not about the wedding for us, but all the adventures that would happen once we said “I do”. We organised the wedding in about four months.
Our big day was so much fun. That’s the best way to describe it. We had a great time from beginning to end. Everything was very relaxed. We didn’t have a lot of speeches planned, so everyone was able to enjoy themselves. It was the most beautiful day, and the sky was blue all day long. It was truly blessed from beginning to end. We had games for all the guests to play because we love doing those kinds of things with our friends. We even played table tennis together on the day.
The most fulfilling part of our wedding was watching our families come together. They were so involved, and it meant everything to us to see them celebrating with us and being genuinely happy. It was incredible for everyone to be in one place, just enjoying being together. It really was such a happy day.
I wanted a very simple dress as I am a simple person. My mom helped me choose a Pronovias dress with a classic neckline with thick straps. It’s off- white, all made of silk, with buttons all the way down the train.
We chose a minimalist decor scheme because the wedding was in the most beautiful area, our family home in the Transkei, Eastern Cape. We wanted the natural beauty of the place to come through, not the decor.
There isn’t a thing I’d change about my big day. We had the best time and are so happy we did it, but being married is so much more fun. We wouldn’t want to change that.
The song that sums up my wedding day is My First, My Last, My Everything by Barry White, because that’s the song we had our first dance to. Every time we hear it, we remember our day and start to dance.
For our honeymoon, we chose Mozambique and Vietnam because we wanted to g o somewhere we could do something different and just enjoy being tog ether.