Par­ent­ing – Help! We’re go­ing on a hell-iday

We all dream of EN­JOY­ING THE LAST DAYS of sunny weather hol­i­day­ing but get sulks, stress and shout­ing in­stead. Here’s how to SUR­VIVE this Easter with YOUR DEAR­EST KIDS.

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When did en­joy­ing your­self with those you’re clos­est to be­come such hard work? The main trou­ble with family hol­i­days is that if you’re trav­el­ling with any­one un­der 25 or over 55, it’s not a ‘hol­i­day’ as such, merely a change of scenery. Then there’s the mind warp that starts as soon as it’s booked. An idea gets lodged in your psy­che: this year, you’re go­ing to make sure that ev­ery­one has a re­ally fab­u­lous time.

Ex­cept, ex­cept. There can be a hefty gap be­tween ex­pec­ta­tion and re­al­ity. Many of us have some kind of soft-fo­cus, fuzzy no­tion that once we’re abroad with our family, we’ll be merry like the Kar­dashi­ans. But it’s an idea that has to sur­vive get­ting up at 4am for the flights with un­re­served seat­ing, or stay­ing in tiny ac­com­mo­da­tion with­out de­cent WiFi or DStv.

But still, there’s the hope that the teenagers won’t kick off about the lack of mo­bile sig­nal; that your sis­ter or mother won’t dis­grace her­self on the bar; that tod­dlers will thrive on a to­tally dif­fer­ent bed­time, menu and cli­mate.

In short, that your family will be­have this Easter break. Lit­tle won­der, then, that when it comes to au­tumn or win­ter hol­i­days, re­search sug­gests that only one in five par­ents looks for­ward to it – frankly, it’s sur­pris­ing the fig­ure is this high (when asked to pick words to de­scribe hol­i­days, some 30% went for ‘hard work’, ‘tir­ing’ or ‘ex­haust­ing’).

Or maybe you fall into the other camp: the ones who deny re­al­ity and – de­spite what­ever per­sonal hell they are en­dur­ing – sip bub­bly with their feet up, eat scrump­tu­ous lunch by the pool or bask in the sun or post smug Face­book pics of their pho­to­genic chil­dren and brag about the view from their ho­tel. As fam­i­lies in SA be­come more ‘blended’

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