It’s fab­u­lous to reach 40, just don’t try to be­come a pop star, says ex­pert

Weekend Argus (Saturday Edition) - - LIFE - FIONA MACRAE

LON­DON: Life re­ally can be­gin at 40, with im­prove­ments in health­care, ed­u­ca­tion and life ex­pectancy mak­ing the mid-life cri­sis a thing of the past. Psy­chol­o­gist Dr Carlo Strenger says: “As peo­ple start liv­ing longer and fuller lives, we have to... start think­ing in terms of mid-life tran­si­tion rather than mid-life cri­sis.

“If you make fruit­ful use of what you have dis­cov­ered about your­self in the first half of your life, the sec­ond half can be the most ful­fill­ing.”

Writ­ing in the Har­vard Busi­ness Re­view, Strenger said most peo­ple have mar­ried, bought a home and cho­sen a ca­reer by age 30, and with those dif­fi­cult de­ci­sions be­hind them they could start en­joy­ing life – and learn­ing from their mis­takes.

Strenger, of Is­rael’s Tel Aviv Uni­ver­sity, said older peo­ple were much bet­ter equipped to tackle life’s dif­fi­cul­ties, while “the no­tion that pos­si­bil­i­ties slip away with age is based on a false premise”.

“The young do not have end­less pos­si­bil­i­ties – that is an il­lu­sion cre­ated by our lim­ited knowl­edge of our­selves and the world when we are young.

“Early on, we make de­ci­sions on the ba­sis of scant ev­i­dence of our true abil­i­ties; af­ter all, in our late teens and early 20s we know lit­tle about what we are good at and what we en­joy.

“The il­lu­sion of free­dom of youth is also based on a retroac­tive ide­al­i­sa­tion – we for­get the pres­sures we faced.“

How­ever, those tempted to throw up their of­fice job to try to be­come a pop star should note that rad­i­cal rein­ven­tions are doomed to fail, Strenger warned. – Daily Mail

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