Rae sings again of loss and grief

Weekend Argus (Saturday Edition) - - LIFE -

NEW YORK: In the months af­ter her hus­band died, Corinne Bai­ley Rae was fix­ated on the griev­ing process – specif­i­cally, whether there is a right and a wrong way to mourn.

It’s not as if Rae acted in­ap­pro­pri­ately af­ter the death of Ja­son Rae from a drug over­dose in 2008.

The Grammy-nom­i­nated Bri­tish singer-song­writer, who daz­zled the mu­sic world in 2006 with her sunny, silky self-ti­tled de­but, dropped out of sight af­ter the tragedy.

She spent a good part of her day sim­ply rest­ing, and when she felt like it, tak­ing walks or spending time with loved ones.

She was also con­fused, in a haze, not know­ing how to go for­ward af­ter the des­tiny she thought she had was for­ever al­tered.

“I’m not fa­mil­iar with that kind of shock that lasts all that amount of time,” the 30-year-old re­called.

“It just sort of takes ages to sink in. You feel it and then you don’t feel it; you know what’s hap­pened and then you don’t re­ally know what hap­pened. Some­body wrote me a let­ter say­ing that you need to sur­ren­der to it, and I was like, ‘Well, how do I sur­ren­der?’ “

While Rae still has not come to terms with her loss, she has learnt that the griev­ing process is dif­fer­ent for every­one.

And for her it in­cluded chan­nelling her emo­tions into mu­sic.

The re­sult is her touch­ing, ten­der new al­bum, The Sea, started be­fore the death of her hus­band but fin­ished more than a year later.

“There are other peo­ple who have had th­ese sim­i­lar ex­pe­ri­ences… all dif­fer­ent kinds of loss, and I feel like a lot of peo­ple don’t re­ally sing about it in pop­u­lar mu­sic,” said Rae dur­ing a re­cent in­ter­view.

“I want to be that one voice that is say­ing that this is also a hu­man ex­pe­ri­ence that is worth mak­ing mu­sic about.” – Sapa-AP

GRIEV­ING: Corinne Bai­ley Rae

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