Avoid­ance ‘key to mar­i­tal bliss’

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LON­DON: The se­cret to a lon­glast­ing mar­riage may be as sim­ple as chang­ing the sub­ject to avoid an ar­gu­ment, US sci­en­tists say.

While younger cou­ples of­ten tackle a dis­agree­ment with a heated row, older ones are more likely to avoid con­flict al­to­gether by switch­ing the topic.

The study sug­gests new­ly­weds still need to work through their prob­lems to iden­tify mu­tual goals, such as how to raise the chil­dren. But more ma­ture spouses have al­ready had their fair share of ar­gu­ments and pre­fer to fo­cus on more pos­i­tive ex­pe­ri­ences.

Lead re­searcher Dr Sarah Hol­ley said that over time hus­bands and wives “in­creased their ten­dency to demon­strate avoid­ance dur­ing con­flict”.

When faced with a topic on which they dis­agreed, older spouses were more likely to change the sub­ject or di­vert at­ten­tion from the con­flict.

The study, pub­lished in the Jour­nal Of Mar­riage And Fam­ily, fol­lowed 127 mid­dle-aged and older long-term mar­ried cou­ples for 13 years. – Daily Mail

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