Avoidance ‘key to marital bliss’
LONDON: The secret to a longlasting marriage may be as simple as changing the subject to avoid an argument, US scientists say.
While younger couples often tackle a disagreement with a heated row, older ones are more likely to avoid conflict altogether by switching the topic.
The study suggests newlyweds still need to work through their problems to identify mutual goals, such as how to raise the children. But more mature spouses have already had their fair share of arguments and prefer to focus on more positive experiences.
Lead researcher Dr Sarah Holley said that over time husbands and wives “increased their tendency to demonstrate avoidance during conflict”.
When faced with a topic on which they disagreed, older spouses were more likely to change the subject or divert attention from the conflict.
The study, published in the Journal Of Marriage And Family, followed 127 middle-aged and older long-term married couples for 13 years. – Daily Mail
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