ON THE COUCH
From the tone of your letter, I think it’s often you taking her to task over what she says. Of course, you want your granddaughter to be as feisty as you were, but what you see as healthy debate might come across as correction.
I suspect you have less reason to lay down the law to her than her parents, so she won’t be used to you seeming to be agitated.
She’ll value your opinion a great deal and the last thing she’ll want to think is that you’re angry with her because of what she thinks.
She needs plenty of practice in articulating her thoughts, but she also needs to know she can do it safely. You can encourage her to defend and develop her arguments. She’s still at school, so she’s used to thinking in terms of right or wrong, but life – and talking about it – is more complicated than that.
You’re ideally placed to teach her all the skills needed to put your point across more subtly. Tell her having opinions isn’t the same as being opinionated, but also that being able to express yourself freely is a privilege.
She’s within her rights to change her mind about things. Don’t forget to tell her that she can disagree with you, too. – Daily Mail