Col­lab­o­rat­ing for #NoMore abuse

Cam­paign strives for an end to suf­fer­ing

Weekend Argus (Saturday Edition) - - FRONT PAGE - SHAIN GERMANER

HUNGANI Ndlovu has been on both sides of phys­i­cal and ver­bal abuse.

When the ac­tor was at boarding school as a teenager, the bul­ly­ing turned from ver­bal to phys­i­cal.

It was the first time in his life he had been hit.

“My fam­ily never did that kind of thing. So it came as a huge shock to me,” re­mem­bers the 23-year-old.

His class­mates had nor­malised a sys­tem of vi­o­lence and bul­ly­ing against younger pupils and, when he reached the higher grades, he ad­mits he helped per­pet­u­ate the cy­cle, of­ten pick­ing on younger pupils.

They were an easy tar­get for older pupils to take their frus­tra­tions out on, con­tin­u­ing the abuse.

“It was some­thing I re­flected on for years, and re­alised how wrong it was.”

He ad­mits to an abu­sive re­la­tion­ship while he was in univer­sity in the US.

His girl­friend would of­ten re­sort to vi­o­lence dur­ing ar­gu­ments.

Af­ter nu­mer­ous al­ter- about their pain and the vi­o­lence that they suf­fered to seek heal­ing,” says Martin Pelders, the founder of Ma­trix Men.

It has mon­i­tored nu­mer­ous cases of abuse against young men, most re­cently the Park­town boys abuse scan­dal that has dom­i­nated head­lines.

Pelders hopes cam­paigns like #NoMore will help en­cour­age male vic­tims of abuse – who of­ten re­main silent – to come for­ward.

The cam­paign was launched in the US in 2013, and is ded­i­cated to en­cour­ag­ing con­ver­sa­tions around abuse and bring­ing vi­o­lence out of the shad­ows.

“#NoMore brings to­gether the largest coali­tion of ad­vo­cacy groups, ser­vice providers, gov­ern­men­tal agen­cies, ma­jor cor­po­ra­tions, uni­ver­si­ties, com­mu­ni­ties and in­di­vid­u­als, all un­der a com­mon brand and a uni­fy­ing sym­bol in sup­port of a world free of vi­o­lence,” says its web­site.

Send your sto­ries of abuse – anony­mously or other­wise – to nomore@ma­trix­men.org.

Visit https:// nomore. org, en­gage with the lo­cal celebri­ties on so­cial me­dia or fol­low the hash­tag #RSASaysNoMore

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