Love is a verb – not rhetoric
WHEN one watches and listens to these endless press conferences and court cases which have become the South African version of “reality TV” . . . [it] is a rude awakening and a constant reminder that this is South Africa and the stakes are high although the means to acquire them may be questionable.
You begin to question existential matters such as love or power. If power is the ultimate, then our energy and resources will be invested in leveraging the force field in our favour, perhaps to come out on top but certainly to ensure that we don’t land up at the bottom.
However trust becomes difficult, fear is key motivator, power abuses become frequent.
Relationships become transactional and the best we can hope for is a fair contract or equitable laws of the land – which stark evidence [indicates] are constantly, even systematically, undermined at every turn by those who suffer from an acute mentality of exceptionalism and sense of entitlement.
So no wonder so obvious a person would have the nerve or gall to ask . . . what it is they have done, when asked to take a hike by those who have had enough.
In a land that still is not reconciled to the reconciliation notion of the father of the nation, love is a much-lauded virtue or desire politicians love to embellish their talk and speeches with. So if love is the ultimate for country and people, then relationships should be primary, not just a means to an end.
The connectedness between my wellbeing and others should come into clear focus. Words like service, caring, blessing, flourishing and trust become rich with meaning instead of being dismissed as philosophy of idealists and losers.
Power flows outward more than it is accumulated. Power differentials are handled with care and respect flows both ways, not just upwards.
Importantly, it is possible to have loveless power but not powerless love – and if we choose only power, love will be incidental but if we choose love our country will surprise us with its reconciliation traits and vestiges.
Begs the questions, what is love, from whence does it emanate? And if God is not that transcendent being of reference and origin, then love emerges as an accidental product of biological forces and is reducible to some base instinct and at best it becomes an illusion – because love requires a real relationship between or among real people.
So please, don’t you guys try to kid us: love is a verb, a doing – not a rhetoric as you are known for, and are good at.
PAT THANDO KONDILE, NEW BRIGHTON