Do you ever really know a person?
AT what point can you say you know a person? A lot of people see, hear and read about famous people so often, they start to believe they know them personally. They will vouch for them and swear on everything sacred to these people’s character, until one day they are surprised.
It may not be something too bad that they discover about them, but their initial assumptions increase the potential for a good thing to go bad.
They say it is bad to speak ill of others when you do not have the facts, and I have learnt that it is the same when it comes to speaking well of others without making sure you have the complete story.
There has been one embarrassing moment after another in my life when something that happened to me was embellished.
This led to admiration that I truly felt was misplaced and it led to situations at times when I had to own people’s disappointment in me.
“They hail you, then they nail you,” says Lauryn Hill in her song Superstar, where she says they did it to Christ too.
Adoration can imprison you when you are not ready for it, but more importantly, when it is inappropriate.
I once confided in a church rector, whom I call my Mother Friend, that I’ve struggled to go to church because, at times, attention is drawn to me and I feel pressured.
My real mother disagrees, but I feel I should be able to concentrate on learning and observing my faith without people wanting to see who I am and get close.
This has happened in three churches and only Mother Friend’s attention felt like sincere love, but that is the one reason I’m scarce in the house of the Lord. I still read my Bible.
There is so much bad stuff to discover about all people that they may be comfortable with and do not think is bad. Sometimes they are working steadily on improving themselves. They do not want to have a myriad strangers to answer to because somebody decided they were disappointed after an assumption proved incorrect.
In this world, where people want to rise to the top by stepping on others, there are times when they bully the wrong people.
Some people do not walk around flexing their muscles, since intimidation and fear are not on their agenda, and they are usually stronger than bullies.
And thinking you know someone can make you attempt to outwit and outsmart them in business, or disregard their input in a business decision because their ingenuity was covert. What about compromising somebody’s plans because, not having faith in them, you intervened in a transaction they were executing, thinking you knew better?
They say that knowing means knowing that you don’t know.
Isn’t that the third guarantee of life, besides death and taxes?
You never really know a person who is not in your life, unless you are a clairvoyant.