How to BUILD confidence

Woman & Home (South Africa) - - In Your Style -

There’s a host of things we can do to build confidence. Firstly, we have to learn to “doubt the doubt”, as Margie puts it. And – cru­cially – not let it dic­tate our de­ci­sions. “No one is immune to fear of fail­ure,” she says. “It’s part and par­cel of be­ing hu­man. It’s what we do next that mat­ters.”

Build­ing confidence re­quires us to step out of our com­fort zone, even when we might fail. Women have a ten­dency to wait un­til we think we can do a job per­fectly be­fore we dare to go for it. Even Chris­tine La­garde, head of the In­ter­na­tional Mon­e­tary Fund and one of the world’s most pow­er­ful women, has re­vealed that she over-pre­pares for meet­ings. But men will hap­pily wing it. “One of the big­gest mis­takes women make is wait­ing un­til they’re re­ally sure they’ll suc­ceed be­fore they try,” says Margie. “But be­com­ing con­fi­dent means do­ing the very thing we wish we were con­fi­dent enough to do.” DO IT You know that voice in­side your head that’s al­ways nag­ging you about ev­ery mis­take? Name it. “You might call it Deb­bie Downer or your In­ner Grem­lin,” says Margie. Nam­ing it helps you see it’s not who you are, but sim­ply your fear talk­ing.

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