I’ve walked in on my boyfriend masturbating in the bathroom twice. What’s the best way to deal with the awkwardness?
ANSWER FEELINGS! Aren’t they bastards? His feelings of embarrassment at being bust wanking, your feelings of awkwardness at having bust him, his feelings of horniness at needing that hormonal release, your possible feelings around the fact that he felt he needed to when (I imagine) you are in an active sexual relationship... They all rack up these blerrie feelings. How you decide to respond to this is up to both of you and it will be decided by who you are, your relationships with your own bodies, your relationship with each other, your upbringing etc etc. Do you see masturbation as wrong or dirty? I hope not. I believe everyone does or at least has at some stage masturbated and those that deny it are lying. But that’s just my world view. What about masturbating in a relationship? Is it a sign that your sex life is struggling? In some cases it could be, in many cases it isn’t. Sometimes it’s just a release, an itch that needs scratching. Personally, I would not make a big deal about it at all unless you want to use it as a launch pad into understanding each other better sexually. If you masturbate, then be open about it and let him know you do too. Maybe it’s something you want to do together. Or not. That’s also cool. Bottom line – no judgies. Talking about it is a start. And that start can lead to a better understanding of each other’s needs and desires.
HE’S JUST REALLY IN TOUCH WITH HIMSELF!