Learn to embrace (some of) the chaos
You arrive at work an hour early on Monday so you can sanitise your desk, empty your inbox and write your weekly team memo all before coffee. Feeling satisfied? Perfectionism gets a bad rap – and justifiably so, since it’s linked to problems like eating disorders, depression and anxiety. But when you’ve got some of the same traits as Beyoncé, it can be tricky to distinguish problem perfectionism from positive characteristics, like conscientiousness and endurance. If you’re losing sleep over that vegan malva pudding for the office morning tea that didn’t quite turn out as planned, take our quiz to see if you’re healthily conscientious or whether you’re torturing yourself. Then learn how to harness your high-achieving habits, without psyching yourself out.
Q1 HOW FAR IN ADVANCE DO YOU ARRIVE FOR APPOINTMENTS?
(A) Right on time. I’m not normally late, but it does happen now and then. (B) Typically five to 15 minutes early. (C) Sometimes around 30 minutes early so I’m not anxious about being late.
2 YOUR FRIEND’S INVITED YOU TO JOIN HER HIPHOP CLASS, BUT BASED ON YOUR CHILDHOOD BALLET FAILS, YOU RECKON YOU’RE LIKELY TO SUCK AT IT, HARD. WHAT DO YOU DO?
(A) Sign up and enjoy flailing around the dance floor. It doesn’t matter if I’m not awesome right away – I love the LOLs. (B) Turn up to class low-key in a hat and sunglasses, but as I improve, it becomes more fun. (C) If I’m not going to kill it, why bother? Better not to sign up.
3 WHAT’S YOUR APPROACH TO LAUNDRY AND DISHWASHING?
(A) Get it done. I have a system, but if someone offers, I’ll take the help. (B) It bugs me slightly if people are more relaxed than I am about keeping house, but I’m not losing sleep over it. (C) I have standards. I don’t let my partner or dinner guests help out because they won’t do it right.
4 SOMEONE IN YOUR NETWORK’S TWEET CONTAINS “THERE” WHEN IT SHOULD BE “THEIR”. HOW DO YOU REACT?
(A) Meh, mistakes happen. I take it as a reminder to proofread my tweets. (B) Of course I judge their sloppiness, but I wouldn’t actually bring it up. (C) It seriously bothers me. I’ve already tweeted a correction.
5 YOU’VE COOKED DINNER FOR EIGHT MATES AND ASK YOUR FOODIE FRIEND FOR FEEDBACK. “AHHH-MAZING, EXCEPT ONE OF THE APPETISERS WAS A BIT TOO SALTY.” HOW DO YOU FEEL?
(A) Satisfied. I make a mental note to use less salt in that recipe next time. (B) I hear the good, but feel a little hurt by the negative comment, even though I acknowledge it’s true. (C) Devastated. I feel like the whole party was a total fail.