YOU’RE A REGULAR PERFECTIONIST
You’re probably not a “clinical perfectionist”, but you may feel happier and more chilled if you pull back on being quite so meticulous. It’s okay to keep your standards high, as long as they’re also reasonable (that means attainable without causing distress). For example, dial down “I must always get a fivestar performance review” to “my goal is to get mostly five-star performance reviews”. Be careful not to self-criticise: it’s associated with lower motivation and less self-control, writes Dr Kelly McGonigal in The Willpower Instinct. Rather than zeroing in on negative feedback, look at the big picture and learn from both your slip-ups and wins.