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My prob­lem is I only want to date phys­i­cally beau­ti­ful girls – which means I’m al­ways in com­pe­ti­tion with half a dozen other guys to get their at­ten­tion.

But then when I suc­ceed in go­ing out with such a woman I quickly lose in­ter­est be­cause of­ten they don’t stim­u­late me in­tel­lec­tu­ally. But I keep do­ing the same thing over and over. Why can’t I just go for the brainy ones? Daniel, email

The prob­lem is that you’re mak­ing too many as­sump­tions. That beau­ti­ful women are less brainy is a myth. That clever women aren’t beau­ti­ful is also a myth. There are many women who are both beau­ti­ful and ex­tremely clever. Es­sen­tially the one re­ally has noth­ing to do with the other.

Also, how at­trac­tive some­one is doesn’t only de­pend on their looks. It’s about the whole pack­age. The fact that you want to go out only with phys­i­cally beau­ti­ful women says some­thing about your­self – per­haps you feel you need a beau­ti­ful woman on your arm to give you more self-con­fi­dence?

Do your­self a favour and change your per­spec­tive – you need to see women for who they are, as a whole, in­stead of just be­ing cap­ti­vated by the “wrap­ping”. You’ll be amazed at how much more ful­fill­ing the re­la­tion­ship will be.

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