I CAN’T FALL PREG­NANT

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I’ve been trying for two years to fall preg­nant and have con­sulted an in­fer­til­ity ex­pert. The doc­tor says there’s no phys­i­cal rea­son why I have not fallen preg­nant and that there might be some­thing else pro­hibit­ing me from con­ceiv­ing.

My hus­band and I are both happy in our mar­riage and he’s sup­port­ive of my en­deav­our to have a baby.

About four years ago we lost our lit­tle daugh­ter in a car ac­ci­dent. She was two years old at the time. I was driv­ing and she was with me in the car when an­other car crashed into us and she was killed. Could this have some­thing to do with the prob­lem? We loved our daugh­ter very much and still mourn her. Brigitte, email The fact that you lost a young child to death may very well have some­thing to do with your body not al­low­ing you to con­ceive again.

I would sug­gest con­sult­ing with a psy­chol­o­gist who is trained in hyp­nother­apy in or­der to ac­cess your sub­con­scious mind and see if this is the rea­son for you not con­ceiv­ing.

It might be that sub­con­sciously you’re wor­ried you might for­get the daugh­ter who died if you have an­other baby or it could even be that you’re pun­ish­ing your­self sub­con­sciously be­cause deep down you feel you’re re­spon­si­ble for the baby’s death, even though it was an ac­ci­dent.

See­ing a prop­erly trained psy­chol­o­gist would be the best way to get to the bot­tom of the psy­cho­log­i­cal prob­lems that could be af­fect­ing your abil­ity to con­ceive.

‘Im­ma­ture love says I love you be­cause I need you. Ma­ture love says I need you be­cause I love you’–

ERICH FROMM, AMER­I­CAN PSY­CHOL­O­GIST

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