SHE VALUES MONEY OVER LOVE
‘At his best, man is the noblest of all animals; separated from law and justice he is the worst’ – GREEK PHILOSOPHER ARISTOTLE
My sister is engaged to a rich guy who’s promised her a life of luxury. But she’s told me she can’t stand him touching her and that she doesn’t even like him – never mind love!
I’ve tried to talk sense into her but without success. She’s convinced she’ll be happy if she has a luxurious life, and says she can get by with having lovers on the side.
How do I get her to see this isn’t a good idea and that all she’s doing is setting herself up for a lot of heartache? Belinda, email Your sister obviously thinks money can buy happiness, and your concern is valid – money certainly makes life easier but it’s no guarantee of happiness. It’s also not really fair towards the guy who’s asked her to marry him as he’s likely to be rather unhappy if he discovers she doesn’t want him to touch her and is revolted by him but is happy to accept his money.
Also, he’s unlikely to accept her having lovers on the side. What will happen is that eventually they’ll both be unhappy and the marriage will end in divorce. At the very least you need to genuinely like the other person for a marriage to work.
Your sister seems to be a selfish person who’s concerned only about her own needs. As she won’t listen to you, you could try to warn her fiancé in a roundabout way – perhaps ask him if he’s sure the marriage is what they both want.
Tell him he deserves to be with someone who really loves him. He might not get the message, but at least you’ll have tried. Your sister may be angry with you for doing it, but at least you’ll be able to live with your conscience.