I just knew it Was real

Your Baby & Toddler - - Your Voice - Lizzy

Af­ter los­ing our first baby three years ago, we put our dreams of start­ing a fam­ily on the back burner. Our ca­reers came first to my fi­ancé and I, un­til one fate­ful day in June 2013. I woke up feel­ing quite dif­fer­ent than usual. A few days passed and in

the back of my head a voice kept say­ing, “You’re preg­nant.” That evening my fi­ancé came home with three preg­nancy tests – he was that ex­cited. I did three but they all looked un­clear, so I gave up and went to sleep. Two more tests later I thought I was go­ing crazy – all the tests were nei­ther neg­a­tive nor pos­i­tive.

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But I just had to know, so I se­cretly made a doc­tor’s ap­point­ment the next day. About 20 min­utes into that ap­point­ment that lit­tle voice in­side of me was val­i­dated; I was five weeks into a preg­nancy. When I told my fi­ancé, he nearly fell off the couch! It was one of the most beau­ti­ful mo­ments in our re­la­tion­ship.

Af­ter con­tract­ing menin­gi­tis in my third trimester and suf­fer­ing bruised ribs when baby got stuck, our beau­ti­ful daugh­ter ar­rived six weeks early in Fe­bru­ary 2014.

about be­ing able to give my son what he needs.

I re­alised things aren’t as sim­ple as I thought – the things I wor­ried about when preg­nant are the eas­i­est to do, the things I didn’t even won­der about are the hard­est. I think when you’re preg­nant you are so fo­cused on whether you will be a good mom or not that you just can’t seem to take any­thing in that you read, un­less it’s preg­nancy re­lated. To all the moms-tobe out there, take it easy! Rest while you can, I know it’s hard when you’re preg­nant but do it. Don’t sweat the small stuff and spend time read­ing up about the things that mat­ter. And when baby ar­rives and you’re strug­gling with a wide awake baby late at night, re­mem­ber soon he will be big and you won’t be able to hold him on your chest so eas­ily. And most of all, don’t be too hard on your­self. The fact that you’re try­ing al­ready means a lot. Be the best you can be, it’s enough for your baby.

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