DIS­TANCE BOND­ING

Your Pregnancy - - Q&A Month 8 -

Q: I am 26 years old and preg­nant with my first child and I’m a full­time univer­sity stu­dent in Gaut­eng. My baby is due end Novem­ber and I will have to leave her at home in Lim­popo next year for my fi­nal year at univer­sity. How do I make sure that my baby is well taken care of and how do I pro­mote a mother-and-child bond from such a dis­tance and with school work as well? There has to be a way. Please help!

A: Tina says: Un­for­tu­nately there is no easy an­swer to your ques­tion. Do you have fam­ily in Lim­popo that you trust to take good care of your baby? Leav­ing your baby in the care of some­one else is hard, be­cause it feels as if no one can look af­ter your baby as well as you can. When­ever you can, get back to Lim­popo to visit your child so that she know you and re­mem­bers you. Leave photographs of your­self for your fam­ily to show her and keep a photo of her with you. This is go­ing to be a tremen­dous chal­lenge for you and you must make sure you work hard so that you pass your ex­ams and make a bet­ter life for your­self and your child. Don’t feel alone – women all over the world feel like you do and they man­age to raise won­der­ful chil­dren who ap­pre­ci­ate the many sac­ri­fices that their mothers make in or­der to forge a bet­ter life path for their fam­i­lies. It sounds as if you are one of those strong, car­ing women who want to make a dif­fer­ence in this world. There is al­ways go­ing to be a trade-off with cer­tain sit­u­a­tions in your life. Get­ting an ed­u­ca­tion is your ticket to a bet­ter life, but your trade-off now means that you will be away from your daugh­ter for pe­ri­ods of time. Write to her, phone her when she gets big­ger and see her when­ever you can.

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