WE ARE THE CHANGE WE SEEK - MAILANE

Sunday Observer - - YOUTH SECTION - BY SIBU­SISO DLAMINI

SIlumko says he tried to do ev­ery­thing in child­hood be­cause he was just in­ter­ested in en­joy­ing him­self. “In my child­hood, the goal was to be cool and en­joy my life. I felt like no­body was ex­pe­ri­enc­ing what was hap­pen­ing in my life, so in pur­suit of my place in the world I found my­self danc­ing, cooking, rap­ping, knit­ting and not to men­tion be­ing part of the school's band as a drum­mer and cym­bal­ist.

“Be­sides be­ing in the choir, and at­tend­ing a boy’s school (Sale­sian), life was pretty much bor­ing be­cause I couldn't find the sport I was in­ter­ested in so I spent my time watch­ing all sports on TV, and play­ing a whole lot of video games.”

He says he only no­ticed his love for fash­ion whilst he was try­ing to look good and get at­ten­tion from the op­po­site sex, some­thing largely in­flu­enced by him at­tend­ing a boy’s school. He then re­alised that clothes sold in stores were just too ba­sic.

“I was hon­estly just only try­ing to out­class the other dudes for girl’s at­ten­tion. At­tend­ing a boy’s school highly in­flu­enced how we pre­sented our­selves out there, and this is when I re­alised I was good at putting to­gether DOPE out­fits.

The clothes that were be­ing sold in stores quickly be­came a bore to me be­cause they didn't speak for me as some­one who loves to cre­ate. Around the same time I was in­tro­duced to lo­cal de­signer 'Chenx' who tai­lored my clique's clothes and I haven't stopped wear­ing de­signer/weird/rare clothes ever since. That’s how de­sign­ing my own clothes for my La­bel "MAILANE" came about and now I can safely say it is one of the great­est brands to come out of The King­dom of Swazi­land.”

He says the brand name Mailane comes from his bi­o­log­i­cal sur­name.

“Bi­o­log­i­cally, I am Si l umko Men­zi­wez­in­to­zonke Mailane, but I use Silumko Men­zi­wez­in­to­zonke Fakudze. Mailane is my fa­ther's last name, but be­cause my grand­mother later got mar­ried to a Fakudze, and due to the fam­ily's un­writ­ten rules, the Fakudze sur­name was fos­tered into the fam­ily tree. Mailane is then the name I chose for the name of my De­signer-Art brand.”

He states that he no­ticed that his par­ents re­greted the ca­reers they had cho­sen, which is why he de­cided to fol­low his pas­sion. He says his mother is the only per­son who has sup­ported him, whilst his fa­ther seems to be against it

– the same re­ac­tion he got from his teach­ers.

“My par­ents seem to be liv­ing in re­gret of fol­low­ing ca­reer paths that their par­ents chose for them in­stead of fol­low­ing their dreams. My mother gives me free­dom to ex­press my­self and I am for­ever grate­ful for this op­por­tu­nity that wasn't availed to her.

My fa­ther doesn't seem to be pos­i­tive. Most of my high school teach­ers also took me for the un­fo­cused child and I vividly re­mem­ber one telling me that I would be ‘a no­body in life’ said to me " sim­ply be­cause they thought I did what I did for girls, miss­ing the whole point, be­cause I did and still do what I do for "ME".”

Silumko says he un­der­stands why his fa­ther and teach­ers were against his pas­sion be­cause for a cer­tain time, he in­vested a lot of his time in ar­eas of per­sonal in­ter­est and dis­re­garded his stud­ies, which he strongy ad­vices against.

“My pas­sion had an enor­mous im­pact on my stud­ies, which is why I un­der­stand t he back­lash I used to face. More of my time was be­ing i nvested in ar­eas of per­sonal in­ter­est as I grew up. Tak­ing the neg­a­tive crit­i­cism isn't for the weak but I felt it was worth the risk be­cause I was in­vest­ing in what set my soul on FIRE with­out seek­ing val­i­da­tion from fam­ily, friends or any so­cial cir­cle.

I strongly be­lieve for­mal ed­u­ca­tion is im­por­tant in any ca­reer path though, let me state that. So long as you are fol­low­ing your pas­sion, and not pur­su­ing some­thing be­cause your par­ents or friends chose, be­cause if so, one thing is a def­i­nite – you will re­gret it for the rest of your life.”

SILUMKO’S IN­SPI­RA­TION AND AS­PI­RA­TION

IN­SPI­RA­TION - I am in­spired by all that we have cre­ated for our­selves as the hu­man species. And this quote "Ev­ery­thing you have ever wanted is on the other side of FEAR". AS­PI­RA­TION - My as­pi­ra­tion is to see more peo­ple be­com­ing the change that they want to see in the world. I as­pire to be the num­ber one mo­ti­va­tor of our gen­er­a­tion be­cause I be­lieve "we are the change we seek"

AD­VICE TO YOUNG PEO­PLE ON PAS­SION PAY­ING

Do not try to please peo­ple be­cause it hides the real you, in­vest in high qual­ity clothes and don't for­get that "we do judge a book by its cover". The num­ber one en­trepreneur­ship is the CODE to live a happy life in the 21st Cen­tury.

Learn some­thing new that is re­lated to your pas­sion on a daily. If you haven't found your pas­sion, "Look in­ward". Prayer alone does not help, so be firm and con­sis­tent with what you want and do what­ever it takes to get it. Get out of your com­fort zone and re­mem­ber that the rea­son you're do­ing this is to make your life bet­ter.

RE­DUCE, RE-USE, RE­PAIR, RE­CY­CLE and SHARE KNOWL­EDGE

ON DRUGS - In over 90 per cent of drug use cases, it has been a sou­venir from this so­cial club named "school" so we shouldn’t re­ally judge drug users that much but in­stead try help them out of it. If you are al­ready us­ing drugs…Well, look in­ward and you will find that God gave you this chal­lenge be­cause in­side you there al­ready is the abil­ity to over­come the sit­u­a­tion. TAKE AC­TION!

To the rest of us, if some­one you love uses drugs... en­cour­age and mo­ti­vate them intheir strug­gle. Cre­ate a plat­form for them to spend their time on ac­tiv­i­ties that keep them away from drugs and talk to a pro­fes­sional with­out crit­i­cis­ing the vic­tim. In most cases, drug use is un­in­ten­tional and the last thing you can do is crit­i­cise a user be­cause as Dale Carnegie said, "crit­i­cism only arouses re­sent­ment" and in this case it leads to more drug use.

THE BILLS ON GIRL­FRIENDS/ BOYFRIENDS

- Speak your heart, let not any­one buy your heart. If you are men­tally at­trac­tive, you will go for some­one who is proud to have you. Well, not be­cause you're pretty or hand­some or are monied, but be­cause they value you as a per­son. All the money in the world can’t com­pare with know­ing you're val­ued, trusted and ap­pre­ci­ated in your role.

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