In­ter­net amour turns to fiz­zling friend­ship for un­ful­filled reader

The China Post - - TV & COMICS -

DEAR AN­NIE: Eight months ago, I met the love of my life on­line. Ev­ery­thing started off great. “Jay” and I chat­ted ev­ery day.

How­ever, at one point, a past lover of his in­ter­vened and warned me about some of his “is­sues.” I be­came a lit­tle bit para­noid and asked Jay to ex­plain his side of things. He didn’t want to at first, but he fi­nally re­lented, and we con­tin­ued on. I told him I loved him.

Three months ago, Jay de­cided there was no way we could be any­thing more than friends. I strug­gled with just be­ing friends, but even­tu­ally, I ac­cepted it. Now, Jay seems to be mak­ing more and more friends and is phas­ing me out. One of my dear­est friends died last week, and Jay hasn’t both­ered to pro­vide any com­fort. I would cease all com­mu­ni­ca­tion, but it would be dif­fi­cult be­cause the In­ter­net com­mu­nity we be­long to in­cludes many mu­tual friends and chat fo­rums.

Should I re­main so-called friends or just let him go?

— Con­fused Web Reader

Dear Con­fused: Please let him go. Jay is not the love of your life. You have con­fused the ex­cite­ment of your ini­tial con­tact with love, but now you have seen Jay’s true char­ac­ter. He isn’t in­ter­ested in hav­ing a ro­man­tic re­la­tion­ship with you. If you think you can re­main part of the same In­ter­net com­mu­nity and not pine over him, fine. Try to ig­nore him as best you can. Oth­er­wise, please ex­pand your on­line pres­ence so you aren’t as de­pen­dent on this par­tic­u­lar com­mu­nity of peo­ple.

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