Lady is unsure about etiquette of bringing plus-one to wedding
DEAR ANNIE: How much can I ask my host about etiquette for her overseas wedding?
I live in Canada. The bride is French. I met her when she was briefly living in my hometown. She went back to France two years ago, and now she’s getting married there. The wedding invitation was sent to my name only, and there was not any kind of RSVP card that I’m accustomed to seeing. So I’m unsure whether I am welcome to bring a guest, since attending would involve a rather lengthy journey.
Would it be acceptable to email the bride and ask her whether I can bring my boyfriend? I don’t want to put her on the spot, but I also don’t want to bring my date to a country where he doesn’t speak the language and then stick him by himself for the day, only to find out later that they had expected me to bring him.
— Beaucoup Baffled
Dear Baffled: Did the invitation appear to be formal or informal? If informal, it is perfectly OK to ask the bride whether you can bring a guest. If it is formal, however, you’d have to be more circumspect. Email the bride and say that you would love to attend her wedding, but you aren’t certain you are up to making such a long journey by yourself. If she wants you to bring a guest, she will then tell you so. But if she doesn’t make such an offer, you can assume that her guest list is limited, sorry.