Lonely birth­day girl is not sure how man­ners work in mod­ern world

The China Post - - TV & COMICS -

DEAR AN­NIE: When I was grow­ing up, the rule was that if you had to cancel an ap­point­ment, you would call to let the per­son know that your plans had changed. Now that ev­ery­one has cell­phones, it seems that the rules have changed.

A cou­ple of friends stood me up on my birth­day be­cause my cell­phone was turned off. They said they didn’t come over be­cause I hadn’t called to ver­ify that I was ac­tu­ally go­ing to be there at the ap­pointed time. But we had al­ready made th­ese plans a week be­fore. I thought I only needed to call if I was NOT go­ing to be there. Am I out of touch with how things are done now?

— Sad Birth­day Girl

Dear Birth­day Girl: It was wrong of your friends to as­sume you had can­celed, but even if they apol­o­gize for their rude­ness, it won’t change how they re­spond when they can­not get ahold of you next time. The prob­lem is, so many plans are tran­sient th­ese days. Peo­ple ex­pect to be able to reach you at any mo­ment of the day or night in case some­thing changes at the last minute. But it also means peo­ple need con­stant verification to be sure the plans are still on. We think they would be happy to resched­ule, and we hope you will let them. But per­haps you should check your phone a bit more reg­u­larly this time.

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