Woman is in love with some­one she only had sex with. What to do?

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DEAR AN­NIE: I am a 59- year- old woman. Two years ago, I met this guy, “Jake,” and had feel­ings for him from a dis­tance. We fi­nally got to­gether one night at a club. We ex­changed phone num­bers and then talked for about two months.

Jake in­vited me to his place, and we made love. For the next sev­eral months, that was the pat­tern — I’d go to his place to make love. We had no dates out­side of his apart­ment, so I backed off.

Jake now texts me of­ten, but I am determined to stay away. But, An­nie, I love him. I think about him ev­ery day. How do I get over this man?

— Lost in Love

Dear Lost: This isn’t love. It’s a booty call that you’ve ro­man­ti­cized into some­thing more. Jake is us­ing you, and he knows your weak spots. Delete his num­ber from your cell­phone and block his calls. You can’t get over him if his texts en­cour­age you to think about him all the time. Then make it a point to get out more with friends. Join a so­cial or­ga­ni­za­tion through your church or com­mu­nity cen­ter. Look into or­ga­ni­za­tions that ap­peal to your cre­ative in­ter­ests. And do some vol­un­teer work. It will help you for­get your trou­bles and con­cen­trate on some­one else’s.

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