Woman is in love with someone she only had sex with. What to do?
DEAR ANNIE: I am a 59- year- old woman. Two years ago, I met this guy, “Jake,” and had feelings for him from a distance. We finally got together one night at a club. We exchanged phone numbers and then talked for about two months.
Jake invited me to his place, and we made love. For the next several months, that was the pattern — I’d go to his place to make love. We had no dates outside of his apartment, so I backed off.
Jake now texts me often, but I am determined to stay away. But, Annie, I love him. I think about him every day. How do I get over this man?
— Lost in Love
Dear Lost: This isn’t love. It’s a booty call that you’ve romanticized into something more. Jake is using you, and he knows your weak spots. Delete his number from your cellphone and block his calls. You can’t get over him if his texts encourage you to think about him all the time. Then make it a point to get out more with friends. Join a social organization through your church or community center. Look into organizations that appeal to your creative interests. And do some volunteer work. It will help you forget your troubles and concentrate on someone else’s.