Is Bar­ney play­ing a game with woman, or does he mean it?

The China Post - - TV & COMICS -

DEAR AN­NIE: I’ve been good friends with “Bar­ney” for 10 years. Dur­ing that time, we’ve had an on-and­off ro­man­tic re­la­tion­ship. For years, I as­sumed it was a tim­ing is­sue, but I fi­nally re­al­ized that, as much as he might care about me, I was just be­ing used to fill up time be­tween women. I felt so be­trayed that we didn’t speak for a year.

A few months ago, Bar­ney called, want­ing to get to­gether and talk. He told me he had done a lot of soul search­ing and came to the re­al­iza­tion that he had messed up a great thing with me. He wanted to prove he had changed.

My mother re­cently be­came ill and lapsed into a coma. Bar­ney has been at my side, help­ing and sup­port­ing my sis­ter and me. He brought flow­ers to Mom’s room, bought us cof­fee and sand­wiches, and has done any­thing else we needed. He has vol­un­teered many times to sit with my mother so we could go home, shower and put in some time at our jobs.

Bar­ney truly has stepped up, but I am still scared it won’t last. I fear this will end up be­ing yet an­other game he’s play­ing. As much as I love him and ev­ery­thing he is do­ing for my fam­ily, I don’t know that I can risk putting my heart out there again. Should I give him an­other chance? Or should I tell him we are bet­ter off just be­ing friends?

— Hope­lessly in Love

Dear Hope­lessly: It’s un­der­stand­able that you would be skit­tish, but lov­ing some­one al­ways in­volves the risk of be­ing hurt. What you need is time to de­ter­mine whether Bar­ney is in it for the long haul. He seems to be try­ing to prove him­self, and this should not be dis­missed out of hand. We think he de­serves a sec­ond chance. Tell Bar­ney you want to take it slowly this time to be cer­tain you can trust the re­la­tion­ship. If he is the real deal, he will un­der­stand and will­ingly give you as much time as you need.

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