Less than impressed that an ex is flirting at the family funerals
DEAR ANNIE: I am confused about how to handle my husband’s ex-girlfriend, who shows up at his family funerals and stays three hours at the visitation hanging with my husband and reminiscing about the past. They discuss things out loud with no respect for me.
This woman is married, but never comes to these gatherings with her husband. And my husband still does her taxes, even though I told him he shouldn’t. He’s opening the door to trouble.
I do trust my husband, but not her. She definitely is still attracted to him, and it shows. Is her behavior normal, or should I tell her at the next funeral to pay her respects and leave?
— Not Jealous, Just Hurt
Dear Not: Please don’t let your insecurities cause you to overreact. If you trust your husband, it doesn’t matter what his ex- girlfriend does. And how often does the family have funerals that you need to worry about this? We agree that she is being inappropriately flirtatious, but it is only a big deal if your husband responds in a similar fashion. We suggest you chummy up to this ex-girlfriend at these events. It will totally baffle her, greatly impress your husband and make her less of a threat to you.