Daughter has some practical advice for self-absorbed mom
ANNIE: My 85-year-old mother seems to be a loving, generous person. But I know her to be extremely self-centered. For example, I don’t dare mention that I might be sick or have a problem, because she will reply with a long list of her own complaints. Everything she says, every story she tells, is turned around to make her look wonderful and important.
We recently had a family gathering, and I made a toast to my sisters-in-law and our children because they all had made important advancements in their careers and education. Before the toast was over, my mom piped up and said, “What about me?” and proceeded to ramble on about herself.
I am writing not to get advice, but rather to give it. I don’t care how old you are; don’t hog the spotlight. Listen to your children and grandchildren and be interested in their lives. Because of my mother’s narcissism, I have learned to be humble. Because of my mother’s self-centered attitude, I have learned to be sensitive to others. Because of my mother’s constant complaining, I have learned not to talk about my own aches and pains. I am sure that when she is gone, I will miss her. But the best thing she ever did for me was to teach me to be a better mother and grandmother by setting such a bad example.
— The Good Daughter