Heartbreaking end to devastating story leaves reader broken
DEAR ANNIE: Recently, I insisted a dear friend move into my home so I could help him after he was diagnosed with a brain tumor. After a lengthy surgery, doctors managed to remove it. Two weeks later, I took him to a rustic cabin retreat so he could rest.
The morning we were to leave for home, I woke up and went to open the front door, but it was blocked. Apparently, my friend had gone out earlier, tripped and hit his head, and had died in front of the door.
Since then, I haven’t been able to eat or sleep. I don’t know where to turn and am about to have a breakdown. I can’t afford therapy. Do you have any advice?
— Devastated in Ohio
Dear Ohio: We are so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. You thought your friend would be OK and weren’t prepared for his sudden death. Please know that you are not at all responsible for what happened. It may even be that the treatment of his tumor affected his balance or visual focus, contributing to his tripping and falling.
Counseling will help you come to terms with this, and it doesn’t need to be costly. Check at the hospital where your friend was treated and ask whether they offer grief counseling. You also can discuss this with your clergyperson.