Man worries that his wife can’t accept his cross-dressing urges
DEAR ANNIE: I am 50 years old. After 10 years of marriage, I feel I must tell my wife of the reason for my declining ability to perform in the bedroom.
After three months without intimacy, she requested that I see a doctor and I agreed to do so. However, what she doesn’t know is that in order to have a marriage with this wonderful woman, I have been suppressing my desire to cross- dress.
I have been searching the Internet for days to find a therapist who can help me bring this issue out in an appropriate way. Many of the websites I’ve seen don’t appear to be professional.
I don’t want to talk to my wife without a professional present because I fear disastrous results. I love her dearly. What do you suggest?
— No Life Without Wife
Dear No Life: We suggest you contact The Society for the Second Self at Tri- ess. org and ask whether they can refer you to a therapist. You also can look online or in your phone book for a gender therapist or ask your doctor to refer you to someone.
Please don’t keep your wife in the dark. She deserves to know the truth about what’s going on, and she can also be a source of support.